The Hook Up

*Word to the reader: in no way do I mean every guy in every bar, frat, etc is like this. No way. Just a general conclusion I've made in my 3+ years here at MSU. Thanks!
xoxo,
J.

I just have the urge to spill.

Fraternity Men vs. Men in Bars


Frats.


Oh god love them. So here's my weekend thus far: Thursday my roommate C, our good friend K, and E (all sisters) went to a frat party on campus. Talk about an epic fail of a night (for me at least). Firstly, the house was empty. Well, it was like a good crowd, but still...could've been more. The guys are skeeze balls. We'd walk around and yeah we're looking damn good, all of us wearing short mini dresses and heels, and some guys would just practically grope us. Like graze our legs as we walk by, "accidental" boob graze and then just laugh and high five their male counterparts. Nice boys. Nice. Keep it up and that will be the only breast you ever get close to touching. As I walk around (prbably the downfall of the night, we should've found the dancefloor and just stayed there. Always worked for me, but we were on a mission to find people we knew...our potential sleepover partners lol), I think to myself "Wow, I feel old here". And I probably was one of the oldest partiers there, save for the creeper 30-some alumni who just doesn't want to grow up. So to make a long story short...C was way too drunk and passed out on someone's lawn who proceeded to find her there and thankfully drive her back to our house. K found someone to screw. Wasn't the cutest but hey at least she got some. E and I both found our potentials for the night but neither one was being cooperative with us. Men. When you make it known you want to sleep with them, that's when they say no. But god forbid if you're not up for it, then all of a sudden I'm a prude. Don't get me started...

Bars.

Well to say the least I'm fairly a newbie 21 year old but thus far I think I have a good grasp on the subject. The guy in the bar...ah where to begin? Let's begin right where his frame of mind is when he walks into a crowded bar: "Who am I gonna take home with me tonight?". Or the more superficial guys: "Who am I gonna fuck and forget about tonight?". Either way, the guy at the bar is looking for a hook up, and that's about it. Guys in frats can be either way. The younger ones really have no idea what they're looking for...for some it could even be their first time. A bj or even a good makeout will do them well. But the older guys are always looking for a good time. And freshmen meat are their prey. But anyways, now back to the guy in the bar. You walk in (ladies) and feel like you're looking good, so you order yourself a drink and wander around, scanning the room looking for some cute guy to lock eyes with. But sometimes, those cute guys know they're cute. And they will be damned if some girl catches their attention. They want to divide and conquer. And forget about getting drinks bought for you these days! With this economy, I'm going on Lady's Night where it's free cover and $3 drinks all night. But even then...I have yet to have one drink bought for me, even on my bday by a guy I don't know. Going to the bar is always a hassle. The age range is so messed up when you're not on a college campus or at a bar where the age is usually around college grads. You could be talking to a 22 year old guy in his last year at Iowa or some creepy ass 40 year old who owns a bar in a shady neighborhood or something lol. You just never know. And yet as I reveal that I am just a 21 year old...they start to salivate. Why? Like the older guys at the frats, young chicks are there for them to conquer.

So in reality, frat guys and bar guys are both looking for young chicks, basically. Ah the stigma of age. But that will be another blog. Either way, unless you're looking to put out, I'd avoid the frat house or bar. Or make it known you're not looking for that up front. But then watch your array of men dwindle down since I swear it's like there's a signal guys give each other that says "Ignore this girl! Ignore this girl!". Oh well. Overall, your night is what you make of it.

xoxo,
JT.